Well well well gurls...Just because I am out of town does not mean that I can't find out what's going on. Thanks to the Motherboards I know almost all! If you whores drag my daughter into the gutter with the rest of you there will be hell to pay! I expect to read all about your little escapades right here on this forum. And besides, Ginger is a good girl, raised right, and she would never stoop that low as to take drugs and have sex with taxi drivers.n

Its been some time since my high drag days - so I can't speak from any recent experience - But, for me, sex in "high drag" was more interesting as everything fell off and got messy. I think Sweetie's comments hit the mark as far as my experience: You want to keep things as enjoyable and simple for yourself as possible. I would add that It should be whatever your into. And (this is key!) you want to get the feel of what you two (or 3..) are about before you even consider leaving the club. That way there are fewer ugly surprises. Beware that if you've had ten cocktails, your judgement may be a tad impaired. I think all the clues are there before you go anywhere as to what he's expecting and what you're willing to give. Judging from the rogues gallery in this room, I'm definately preaching to the choir: But maybe a little pre-queen will happen upon these postings and learn a few things.

Jade

Jade,
Nice pic. in your profile by the way.

thanks

I've been reading old forums today that I've never had time to check out before and came across this. I read the entire thing start to finish - FASCINATING!

I've always wondered about that myth about drag queens being Tops. Do you special girls find it more common that a tranny chaser, once sequestered in the privacy of your bedroom, is actually looking to be penetrated? Or do you find more often they expect to be as close to a real girl as possible and be the submissive partner?

speaking for myself,
i find they usually want to be dressed and then topped!

Not surprising, Dressy. You're so sexy you could make a tranny chaser out of anyone!

In re-reading my post I think I goofed and asked my question wrong. Let me re-state: do you special girls find your tranny chasers generally - once you have them alone want to be the top or the bottom? Do they expect you to be as much like a real girl as possible (i.e., submissive bottom) or do they want you to "make them your bitch", so to speak. Also, do they often get into wearing the clothes themselves and being "dressed" as Dresscode just noted?

Oh Lex, such a complicated question- because it depends so much on who we are underneath all the paint, wiggage, and finery. For myself- most chasers have to be the guy- otherwise, I am not interested. I don't want them to wear my heels, dress them up, or make them my bitch. However, some of my girlfriends love to dress them up and/or make them their bitch, and they totally get off on this. Some of the posts here definitely illustrate how some chasers love this, because I think being with a tranny allows them a certain freedom, they don't necessarily have with their wives or girlfriends. That is why we are special girls.

But this goes to the deeper question of who is a top and who is a bottom- which depends really. I believe that bottoms are truly the ones in charge, from my perspective, because I certainly don't let anybody do anything to me that I don't want to be done. Tops think they are in charge (and let's just let them keep thinking that). Maybe this is just my rationalization for who I am and allows me to percieve that I have control of the situation, but on the same line of reasoning- tops think similarly.

It covers the whole spectrum because I have met chasers who are totally the MAN, period. They don't acknowledge the presence of the ladystick, while others revel in it. While other chasers are more comfortable with themselves, thus are exploratory and willing to let down their socially prescribed role definitions and do things that MEN in our society normally "don't" do (e.g., service the ladystick). Some go the whole other way and want to role play, pretend, and dress up. I think our being fantasy objects allows men certain freedoms and liberties.

Chasers are an unusual breed, and despite my extensive experience, I still don't understand the nature, functions, or desires of such a beast.

Oh my, that is a new one for me - what do you think about "girlytwig" (too 'small' sounding?) or how about "Pusspole"?

I find "girlytwig" a tad too emasculating.

Also, on a barely related note:

"Oh god, Rose, my pussy is _so_ dry. I just don't know what to do..........well, what do you use?....really?.......fuck if I know.....well, where do I get Crisco at this hour?"

-Excerpt of Dame Lady Jack, overheard speaking on the phone some six months ago.

ginger - I tend to agree - but I'll bet you've never heard that one before!

Yes, Randella, you're absolutely right. My question was perhaps way too broad, with so many variables and particulars involved that can affect the answer. Personally I have always disliked the terms "top" and "bottom" in general because they imply negative things to me, but of course I use the terms sometimes in conversation for the sake of convenience. I just found this topic overall to be so fascinating and new to my eyes, I wanted to get different individual takes on it.

Strong enough for a woman, yet made for a man!

Randella, I believe the practice you're referring to, i.e. bottoms in charge, is called "Topping from the bottom." But surely you must know this, with the extensive lexicon you've acquired over your years as Supervising Psychiatric Nurse.

also, topping from below, topping from beneath or fuck me harder, goddammit

last night i went out for a drink or two. around 3:30 i saw someone who looked very sexy. my kind of man, handsom and thick.
we came over to my compartment and we fooled around but he didn't take his clothes off. then he wanted the powder. i thought oh this is wrong. then he ran over to jay's.
while he was out i shaved and prepared for my date.
he wanted me to put on a bra, wig and skirt.

when he came back he was very turned on, he ripped his clothes off when he saw me open my drawers and he wanted to put on a pair of panties. he didn't like my skirt so i changed, he didn't like the other and wanted me to put the jeans i had back on.

and then he wanted to go back to jay's. when he left i made a sandwich and a cup of tea. listened to a little music and went to bed.
5 minutes later he started calling, 7 messages.
ringing my buzzer and some how he go in to my highly secure building and kicked and pounded on my door. i fell asleep.
it was so much work and such a shame. i enjoyed being with him to bad about the wife and powder.

Hi Everyone,

I am relatively new here, and couldn't stop myself from posting something from a T-Chaser perspective. I can't speak for all T-Chasers, as I am sure we all come in different flavors (no pun intended).

T-Chaser Turn-ons (besides a big Ladystick):

A girl who is comfortable in her own skin, articulate, confident, and erotic. A girl who knows exactly what she wants, and isn't afraid to tell you in no uncertain terms what turns her on.
A girl who wants you to fulfill HER fantasy.

...oh, and a girl with a wicked sense of humor.

T-Chaser...top or bottom?:

I suppose I've been more a top than a bottom. However in recent times I find myself wanting to be in the submissive (or bitch) role. In that role, I haven't moved beyond oral...perhaps I haven't met Ms. Right yet?

Sex in High Drag?

...haven't had it any other way. I suppose the most important thing, besides the accessories, is the persona, or attitude throughout the encounter.

To dress or not to dress:

I've never dressed, or been asked to do so by my date. I suppose that if I were with a really hot girl I would seriously consider it, if she told me that it turned her on.

Picking up Girls on the Street:

I used to do it, but don't anymore. Why? I find it more enjoyable to socialize first...drinks, dancing, flirting. For me at least, I need to genuinely like the girl, and I need to feel that she genuinely likes me...we can reach a common ground of mutual respect and trust...that's very important. I also don't pick up girls on the street, because I personally find it demoralizing for both myself and my prospective date.

Breaking the ice:

I usually make eye contact and slip in a slow wink. This is innocent enough so if she smiles back, I'll go over and start talking to her.

Anyway, I will be visiting your great city FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME this weekend. Daddy and Colleetv have already given me great advice on where to go. I am very excited about flirting with the fair "girls" of Gotham.

...so if any of you girls see a cute asian guy throw you a broad smile and slow wink from across the bar, please smile back!

In reading of your Halloween plight, I had to respond, but where? I chose this topic in tea, because, well, it best suits my reply (I think?). But just to let you know ... I, as one without a full-on girlstick, have always had disastrous results getting boys into bathrooms, especially in High Drag!

When I first started going out, I was so drawn to the bathrooms where the boys had much boy-boy carrying on, something in me (too much testosterone?) craved -- like you would not believe -- to join in the merriment. But eeh gads! Upon entering the forbidden garden, I was always tossed out, boobs first, from engaging, why? -- Because my in-ies and out-ies went in the wrong directions! I.e., no stick, no entry!

Upon trying to get straight men into bathrooms, I was equally dismayed on the occasions I made the suggestion to be rejected as well. I'm not sure if it was the aggression that scared them off or the idea I might be whorish (but girlstick had nothing to do with the rejection).

I think perhaps, the "chase scenario" is so engrained in the psyche that when the gender roles are reversed, the "boys" responded as a "girl normally might", i.e. "oh this is moving way too fast." Either that or my BO is too much!

And, thanks Rose, for calling me back to TV-land! With regards to wigs I must say ... would it surprise you to learn, once I was making out with this hot "long-haired" rocker-boy, only to be totally turned off when I pulled too hard and the wig came off! Something about the wig is tied to fantasy, in my opinion, not necessarily gender (but, then again, I don't think like the norm, or at least, I am not to afraid to admit I don't).

This thread is amazing BTW! If you've not read it, you should!

Well, over the years of nightclubbing, boys and bathrooms has evolved to almost like a sport to me (something not offered in typical phyiscal education programs, i imagine). The natural milieu of nightclubs and parties (darkened lighting, liquor, music, dancing) is very conducive to such activities. Depending on my moods, and Halloween I was feeling very mischievous, parties with mixed crowds will have some kind of game- curious straight boys with some liquor coarsing throught their veins, latent chasers, or even the experienced ones who seek out such venues looking for special girls. Without trying to sound predatory, my preference is for the challenge of the "less-experienced" boy. I am sure as well that it is some kind of thrill for me in exchange for all the taunting and teasing I got as a youth from such types of boys just because I was "unique", and to have them want to play with me now- no wonder I live for the game.

Sometimes it works out, and I get to have some fun, and sometimes it doesn't. And sometimes, I am not even interested in partaking, and I just want to be social, drink, and dance. I was just disappointed that I didn't get what I wanted...though I had a brilliant time at the party, and did get what I wanted much much later in the evening.

As for the wig, there is some tranformative magic power in those party hats...there just is.